It is a pity that the rate of separation amongst couples has increased due to sexual dissatisfaction. I recently got a call from a friend whose wife asked for separation on the basis of the husband’s inability of physical love.
Unfortunately, the stress of ‘sexual performance’ is mostly on men. And one of the common issues faced by men is pre-mature ejaculation. This common problem has a common solution- in one’s mind itself! Before we delve into that-
Pre mature ejaculation mostly happens due to the psychological factors. But, I am describing biological factors also for the readers benefit.
- Anxiety about intercourse,
- Being in a situation in which you hurry towards a climax,
- Cultural guilt related to sexual pleasure,
- Erectile dysfunction,
- New partner,
- Problems or lack of understanding between you and your partner,
- Long time since last ejaculation.
- Injury or trauma.
- Sexual abuse
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- One or combination of factors
- Long standing illness
- Hormonal problems with the thyroid gland or abnormal levels of sexual hormones in the body,
- Problems with neurotransmitters in the brain, which therefore fail to carry right signals to the pleasure centers of the brain,
- Problems with the reflex mechanism of your ejaculatory system,
- Infection in the urethra or prostate,
- Damage to the nervous or sensory system due to either surgery or trauma.
- Side effects of some drugs.
- One or combination of factors
There are no physical or biological complications of premature ejaculation. However, it could strain your relationships. Many men also find it humiliating due to our social construct. Occasionally, premature ejaculation may cause fertility problems. If you have been ejaculating too often or too prematurely, your sperm count may be low. Ejaculating prematurely may also prevent fertilization from taking place.
What can you do?
Enjoy..it is sex not a race!Pre-mature ejaculation gets better on its own with time and experience.Relax! Look at intercourse as something pleasurable and not a trophy to be won!
Talk it out- Talk to your partner about your anxieties if it helps. It is ok to be not comfortable and feel stressed. Talking might help you feel ‘lighter’.
You might wish to take therapy from a sex therapist who will undertake a physical examination, talk to you and your partner about your sexual life to understand the root of your sexual problems. You could be prescribed medications along with techniques to delay orgasms. While the therapy ensures that your sexual encounters are stress free, medications ensure that your hormonal levels are in check and that you are healthy enough to have normal, pleasurable intercourse. While antidepressants and topical anesthetics are used, none of these drugs are medically approved for specifically treating premature ejaculation.
Kick the stress out: One of the best ways is to be happy and stress free. Keep your “mind” in check. Relaxation techniques like meditation and deep breathing relieves stress and gradually it settles down anxiety of intercourse.
If you have a lot of stress or if you are depressed as well, your doctor may advise cognitive behavior therapy. This is a psychological treatment for you to be more open and less anxious about sex. Counseling and cognitive therapy is usually used in conjunction with drugs like antidepressants or mood enhancers.
Try the “Start-Stop” Technique. This is by far the simplest technique and can be done alone or with a partner.The technique involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60 seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control. Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”
“Squeeze” Technique- works by squeezing the penis in the area between the shaft and the glans (for about 30 seconds), just before you are about to ejaculate. This stops the ejaculation, but may affect your erection, at least until you are stimulated again. You should then repeat this process 4-5 times until you decide not to delay orgasm anymore.To be effective, this method has to be used for several months and it requires great perseverance from the man and his partner.The idea behind the “squeeze” technique is that, after a while, you are able to recognize the “point of no return” and may be able to delay future ejaculations.
Ayurveda prescribes gentle message of the penis with 1 ounce of sesame oil, 5 to 10 drops of mustard oil 1 hour before intercourse. Wash it off thoroughly before intercourse. You can also use medicated ghees like brahmi ghee, shatavari or ashwagandha ghee to message the pubic bone and the glans penis before making love.
Yoga Asanasas answers!
Matsayasan- Fish pose Helps improve posture, strengthens the upper back and back of the neck muscles, stimulates and stretches belly and front of the neck muscles.
Vajrasan relieves stress and tones the body.
Bow Pose stimulates the spine, expands the shoulders and chest, and strengthens the lower back, hip’s gluteus, hip flexors and hamstrings. It helps strengthen the low back musculature which plays an important role during intercourse. This pose can stimulate organs of the neck and tone the abdominal organs.
Ustrasana- Camel Pose helps improve the posture, strengthens the back muscles and stretches the hip, groins, ankles, chest, abdomen and the entire front body.
For optimal results take deep 5 breaths in each asana. These asanas are not only effective in premature ejaculation but are also known to increase the libido.
So friends, it will be great if you recognized that there are numerous reasons for premature ejaculation and the most common of these being the cluttered mind. The issue is over once you gain confidence. Hopefully the above given techniques will of help all those trying to find a solution to this problem.
Very informative. Especially combining yoga & Ayurveda makes it most useful.
First time discover the true science behind the sex issue i m sure this blog will help lot of couple to improvise not only their sex abilities but for their balance relationship.
Its high time that the society wakes up to the issues of men and just reduce the burden. Great job done of the asans. These are correct.
Bhupat Sidhpura says
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Great blog! It’s really great that someone took initials to go ahead and talk on these subject which seems to be a Taboo in india.its would really help youngsters to have some boom boom on bed??
Unfortunately I’ve suffered with premature ejaculation for a very long time. After plenty of reading and research I came to the conclusion that it was being caused by a combination of things including mental issues and over sensitivity.
I eventually found https://prematureman.com where I learned out and followed some of the advice. This did give me an improvement and now I just have to keep it up and continue with the exercises.
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very useful information and i am practicing this awesome technique getting good results. Me and my partner having ultimate pleasure. thank you for this wonderful technique.