Society is not making it easy to accept our bodies as they are. Body-shaming (criticizing yourself or others because of some aspect of physical appearance) can lead to a vicious cycle of judgment and criticism. The insensitivity has risen to a level where people don’t even mind making fun of someone’s body type!
Today’s generation does not see anything wrong in ‘voicing their opinions’, regardless of the fact that these opinions can actually hurt someone. Most of the young girls and boys today are scared of becoming ‘fat,’ and therefore do crash dieting, eat a low-carb diet – failing to understand that their bodies are in the growth phase, need more carbs-proteins for growth and dieting means a completely different thing! It has also been seen that kids as young as 10-12 years are now worried about the way they look and their ‘size’!
Shockingly, some people believe that making a person feel ashamed of their bodies is a good way of motivating them to transform themselves, and that they will work even harder to achieve it and the sad part is that some people will sham you just for fun!
If someone is unhealthy, telling them how to change that, showing them how they can become fit, and encouraging them to achieve what they desire is the right way, rather than just criticizing them or making fun of them. Discrimination, singling out, and shaming only causes stress and makes any person feel bad. If someone is already overweight/underweight, this attitude can actually stress them out!
Body shaming can cause depression, eating disorders such as Anorexia Nervosa or binge eating and reduced self-esteem. Here are some tips to avoid body shaming and to silence body shamers as well!
- Ignore Negativity
Stay away from negative influences or people who make you feel uncomfortable entirely. People like these usually thrive on your discomfort and misery. Trying to correct them or make them see your journey/life situation is absolutely futile.
- Stand Up For Yourself
Next time when someone makes fun of your looks or mocks you, don’t just withdraw into a shell, speak out against it. Express what is going on inside your mind. Stand up against body shaming. Remember, your motive isn’t to humiliate them, but to make them aware of the negativity of their attitude and the implications of their ‘shaming’ on those affected.
- Find The Real Issues
Sit down and take some time to think about the real issues that are bothering you. Why are you in this situation? What is it that you want to change and why is that change not happening? Many a times, there may be factors beyond your control that are affecting your efforts. Accept and admit the reality of the situation. If it’s something that is beyond your control, don’t stress on it but move on in life.
- Share It – Talk About It
Don’t just bottle it up inside! Express the emotion to move through it. Speaking with someone you trust will help you tide over an unpleasant situation. Talking is nature’s antidote to stress. Keeping it inside you will only weaken you further, and destroy your inner motivation.
- Do Something That Makes You Happy
Go for a walk, talk to a friend, have a healthy dinner! Controlling food with good dietary habits, living a better lifestyle and regular exercise are better coping mechanisms that have helped people over decades to feel good, and ultimately bring the changes they wish to see in themselves. Always divert yourself to something more useful.
The way to end body shaming is not a difficult task, it is simply just keeping your opinion to yourself and letting everyone live in peace. Love yourself for who you are and let others do the same thing. Do remember this is your own journey, and you need to be your own well-wisher and guide.
Vishal Bhati says
Martina Negri says
no this is not correct at all! You have no right to give anyone suggestions on how to live! If they want to be fit they will find the way and they already probably know how to do it, everyone should mind their own business.